WTF #16 💔 Are We Actually Doing in the Coaching World?

 Why Your Next Investment Might Be Learning to Trust Yourself

The multi-million dollar truth no coach wants to admit

There's a conversation I've been avoiding for years.

Not because I didn't know how to say it — but because I wasn't brave enough to bite the hand that feeds me millions.

As someone who built a wildly successful 8-figure coaching business, this industry is my empire. This stream paid for my Hermès, my healing, my house in Portugal. My freedom.

So yes — there's a part of me that wouldn't love the idea of this income disappearing. But there's a bigger part that can't stay quiet anymore.

🧨 "Just Come Into My Energy..."

We've all heard the promises:

"Just come into my energy and you'll make more money."

"This is the frequency of overflow."

"Clients will fall from the sky once you calibrate to me."

I get why we say this. We sell transformation. We teach frequency. And with everything in my heart — I believe mentorship can change lives.

I wouldn't be the woman I am without my mentors. My bi-weekly calls with Batya Solomon from The Kabbalah Centre cause ego deaths like clockwork.

But here's what I've witnessed over and over: Sometimes coaching cannot help you. Because you're not meant to be helped. You're meant to figure it out on your own.

⏰ When It's NOT Your Time

When I onboard my private clients, I always check their current energy trend. (I share this intel in Rich+Happy Spiritual Business Home through weekly personalized reports.)

Often what I see is: "It's not time for more mentorship. It's time to trust yourself."

But here's what happens instead:

• They ignore their inner knowing
• They invest anyway
• They become addicted to guidance
• They collapse the moment they graduate

I've watched women invest $20K, $50K, even $100K into mentorships — and fall apart the second they're alone.

Why? Because they never learned to generate their own power.

👠 The Chanel Analogy

It's like walking into Chanel on Rue Cambon, buying the iconic quilted bag, wearing it on your arm, and hoping no one notices you never learned how to carry yourself.

Luxury without identity is just an expensive costume.

And when the bag gets old? When the trend changes? When you can't afford the next one?

You're back to feeling like nothing without it.

💳 The Energetic Debt No One Mentions

Here's the truth that makes coaches uncomfortable:

Being in someone's mentorship is borrowing energy. And just like any loan — you will have to pay it back.

That repayment looks like:

• Integration periods (often painful)
• Grief over who you used to be
• Silence while you process
• Starting over with your own voice
• Finally doing it without being told how

You cannot skip this payment plan. And if you try — the debt shows up as anxiety, imposter syndrome, or total business collapse.

🔥 The Real WTF Truth

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is NOT invest in another mentor.

Sometimes your soul is screaming: "Figure this out yourself. Build your own confidence. Trust your own voice."

But we've been conditioned to think that means we're:

• Self-sabotaging
• Making excuses
• Being cheap
• Playing small

What if it actually means you're ready to play big on your own terms?

Your inner knowing is worth more than the next coach's blueprint. Your timing is sacred. Sometimes you're not meant to be led. You're meant to lead yourself home.

✨ How to Know the Difference

Join mentorship when:

• Your soul says "This is where I rise next"
• You're excited to be challenged
• You can handle being triggered
• You're ready for ego death

DON'T join when:

• You think you need saving
• You're running from yourself
• You can't sit alone with your thoughts
• You're addicted to other people's validation

Michael Berg teaches: "Only a mentor who can truly change you will bring out your judgment first."

So if you've felt triggered in containers — that's initiation, not failure.

But don't mistake being triggered for being ready.

Want to know when it's YOUR time for mentorship vs. solo growth?

Your weekly energy report inside Rich+Happy Spiritual Business Home shows you exactly that — plus when your energy is primed for million-dollar decisions.

[Get Your Energy Report]

And if no one told you today:

You are enough. You are powerful. When it's your time — you'll know.

No borrowed frequency. No energetic loans.

Just truth — and a full-bodied yes.

Sometimes the most expensive investment is the one that teaches you to trust yourself less.